Parents

Are you guys 1 of those above?

well, today i'm gonna share a lil bit of mine.

this was 1 of the question of  The 30 Things from my previous blog entry.

To be honest, i secretly count on my blessing each and every single day that i have such a great parents who give me a pure and endless guidance to my past 26 Years of life. and i'm beyond thankful that my relationship with both of my parents are mainly close but not too overly attached.

Of course there is time where we disagree on certain things which sometime it leads to an arguments, but i always believe that  it's important for us to seek for the 'hidden meaning' from each actions and words which has been taken and spoken by our parents.

I'm not trying to 'preach' you guys to love nor hate your parent, coz i know not all parents are great.
some abundant their own kids, some are extremely ill-treating both mental and physical, some use their kids as a 'money maker' machine, and so much more terrible things that we often seen on TV or even happening live in the neighbourhood.
perhaps, we are given the 'privilege' to witness those nightmare so that we can learn to appreciate and respect our own parents in a much better way. 

Just some pieces of advise, in case you guys are facing some issues with your parents :

• Communication
In any form of relationship be it with your parents, friends or loved one. this is the most crucial part. try to sit down with your parents and speak your mind in a calm and mannerful way. 

• Understanding
It plays as important rules as communication does. don't let yourself too carried away with your emotion and the point that you're trying to express, and forget to put yourself in their shoes on the hardship of being a parent. i know some people who came to their parents and start to express their frustration with all the vulgar languages and bad gestures, or scream and shout hysterically (you want to be heard, not to be judged)

• Representative,
If none of that 2 work out, try to seek for someone who you feel could possible speak on your behalf. i would suggest, that someone is still part of your family or closest one. it never a good idea to get 'outsider' involve on some personal issue. 

example : if you have some issue with both of your parents, try to get your best aunt or uncle to talk to them, or you have some issue with Mom, try to get Dad to talk to her or so) why you need to get someone to speak for your behalf, specifically if your effort isn't turn out to be as expected, is because some parent tent to listen to adult better (people around their age, for 'maturity' reason)
 

I'm no way a good daughter & my parents are not the greatest of all, no one really are. but we share our mutual understanding, and that's actually what make them my most precious and vise versa.
I never hug any of my parents, couldn't even remember when was the last time i did. i don't celebrate their birthdays, so are they. no mother's father's day celebration either. we don't say 'I love you' to each other, not in a million years. but deep inside we dearly bond with each other, living a daily moments where 'Action Speaks Louder than Words